You think of “The Graduate” movie when you think of this subject – and if you don’t then you need to go to your friendly neighborhood search engine and look it up – it’s about a young guy that gets seduced by an older woman and then falls for her daughter. You see, women in terms of dating mature faster than guys – in fact, I think they have a 10-year head start so a 31-year old woman might be better off with a guy in his upper 30’s/early 40’s in terms of dating smarts.

You see, women in terms of dating mature faster than guys – in fact, I think they have a 10-year head start so a 31-year old woman might be better off with a guy in his upper 30’s/early 40’s in terms of dating smarts. First of all, in terms of raw age, I think it’s a bad idea for younger guys to be dating older women – and not for the reason you might think. Remember guys, dating older women can be great – as long as you’re ready for them – because they don’t mess around!

That same 31-year old woman might enjoy the youthful energy of a 21-year old dude but she’s way ahead of him in terms of life experience and maturity. Now, turn the clock ahead and maybe a 61-year old guy and that same lady, who’s now 71, have a much better chance – life experience/maturity/age all shrink the age gulf as more time goes on, IE, the differences aren’t as stark. Remember guys, dating older women can be great – as long as you’re ready for them – because they don’t mess around!

I mentioned there is a second meaning and when guys talk about dating older women they might not be necessarily talking about an age difference between the two of them but the fact that the ladies are mature – I teach on my dating women radio show that when men or women are 18-22 they are in the “ding dong” stage – that is their emotions in dating can swing with the breeze blowing the wrong way – so it’s tough to evaluate either one for long-term because there are so many changes going on.